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[LOL]

Don't worry, GX. You always have ME! And I'm as good as ten of your old friends! LMAO!

There's a line from an old Scottish song called Caledonia that says, "I've left the friends that needed leaving, made others along the way." That's life. It happens to everyone.

Honestly, when I finally understood what had happened, I think I was affected... maybe ten... twenty minutes... if that. I absorb, process, and move on from everything VERY fast. I have often been called uncaring or heartless because I really show no emotion or appear to be so nonchalant about everything... which is not true. I just do not dwell on what is. I am all about forward movement. You go nowhere fast if you stand still though.

[GirlyMuscle]

I f you think about it, we're all moving forward all the time in one way or another. What you have to pay attention to is WHERE are you moving to? For a lot of people it's in a circle, repeating the same things over and over, wondering when life will change. Then there are those of us who understand it's a choice we get to make daily.

Where are you going today?

[tight booty]

I would call my friends, but they stopped dealing with me after I got married because they did not like my choice of spouse, and even after I came back home, and announced that it was coming to an end, I guess I was not the same person they remembered, and still wanted no part of me, and STILL drifted off

Omg, thats so terrible! They should understand and be more open minded about life!

[LOL]

Circles are no good for me. Never have been...never will be. I pity those who enjoy them. They seem so lost.

I know where I am going though

[LOL]

Omg, thats so terrible! They should understand and be more open minded about life!

Terrible, yes... but that is life. People come and go.

I am pretty much a loner at this point. I come into people's lives, and I am there for them until they decide I do not need to be there anymore, and then I walk... no argument, no incident, no looking back. Like a ninja, I disappear as quickly as I appeared, and if I am nothing more than a distant memory in those people's lives, my presence was worth it because at least they can remember me being around. I am certain I have forgotten most people that I have come in contact with, based on their overall insignifigance.

[GirlyMuscle]

I'm not going to start calling you ninja, just so ya know.

And ya aren't walking out my life, buddy. I'm not letting you.

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I'm not going to start calling you ninja, just so ya know.

And ya aren't walking out my life, buddy. I'm not letting you.

That is fine... I do not need it It is just a great example! My start in the martial arts was Ninjutsu though... But I prefer where I am now, anyway.

[tight booty]

Terrible, yes... but that is life. People come and go.

I am pretty much a loner at this point. I come into people's lives, and I am there for them until they decide I do not need to be there anymore, and then I walk... no argument, no incident, no looking back. Like a ninja, I disappear as quickly as I appeared, and if I am nothing more than a distant memory in those people's lives, my presence was worth it because at least they can remember me being around. I am certain I have forgotten most people that I have come in contact with, based on their overall insignifigance.

People do come and go, this is true but some people stay too!!!!!
And for friends to drop you because they don't like your wife, well that happens sometimes but to not be there for you when you separated.....they can't have been good friends to start with! Its not good enough, simply put! You deserve better and don't forget it!

[bndniron4evrgal]

friends come and go depending on what i'm doing in my life.

family will always be there.......i think.

thanks ADINA for the positive strokes.

[Adina Zanolli]

I would call my friends, but they stopped dealing with me after I got married because they did not like my choice of spouse, and even after I came back home, and announced that it was coming to an end, I guess I was not the same person they remembered, and still wanted no part of me, and STILL drifted off

OK Gaxy…I always call you Gaxy in my mind….so…it’s just time you should know that….

Anyway…I have this friend, John. We used to eat out EVERY Friday night. This was when I was heavy, and he was as well. We were kind of a weight loss support group of two.

Here’s the thing…he started dating this girl, and I didn’t really care for her. It was a train wreck waiting to happen.

And John drifted away. And then that train wrecked and John came back.

And while I did let him back into the fold, it’s just not the same. Because I’m on guard around him…knowing that he could easily do the same thing again.

It takes time to rebuild a bridge. You have to remove the old one and wade out in a lot of water to get it done.

It’s even this way with my friend that I wrote about. We still see each other, but it’s not the same. Because she knows she doesn’t really have me back. She’ll never have me back completely….because I won’t go back to the person I was.

Just like your friends will know that they won’t really have you back…because you’re looking. After all…you are in the singles forum with me! WOO HOO!!!

[Adina Zanolli]

I love starting my day like this. Thanks, Adina!

Girl...I did the happy clap when I saw there was a little conversation thread going on within my thread....I LOVE that!

[Adina Zanolli]

friends come and go depending on what i'm doing in my life.

family will always be there.......i think.

thanks ADINA for the positive strokes.

My family did not stay...haven't seen my dad in 29 years...hard to belive.

BUT...I am blesssed to have a best friend who came with a family of my very own...and even though they are not blood...they will never leave me.

I actually got to see a piece of that tonight. As my best friend's dad was in the ER and I was the only one who could get to him. And it was just us there, being scared....but scared together...and I knew that he was indeed my family by choice.

And...thanks for stopping by! I like seeing the same people come by for a second round!

[LOL]

OK Gaxy…I always call you Gaxy in my mind….so…it’s just time you should know that….

Anyway…I have this friend, John. We used to eat out EVERY Friday night. This was when I was heavy, and he was as well. We were kind of a weight loss support group of two.

Here’s the thing…he started dating this girl, and I didn’t really care for her. It was a train wreck waiting to happen.

And John drifted away. And then that train wrecked and John came back.

And while I did let him back into the fold, it’s just not the same. Because I’m on guard around him…knowing that he could easily do the same thing again.

It takes time to rebuild a bridge. You have to remove the old one and wade out in a lot of water to get it done.

It’s even this way with my friend that I wrote about. We still see each other, but it’s not the same. Because she knows she doesn’t really have me back. She’ll never have me back completely….because I won’t go back to the person I was.

Just like your friends will know that they won’t really have you back…because you’re looking. After all…you are in the singles forum with me! WOO HOO!!!

I understand what you are saying

I have not seen these people in two years... no phone calls, or anything. And I tried to keep things going with them. But one day, I decided that, much like with my marriage, I could not be the only one who tried to make it work. If I got no response, then to Hell with it.

So, true to form, when someone no longer wants me around, I walked, and did not look back. So where they are now, I have no idea... but I hope everyone is doing okay

[Adina Zanolli]

I understand what you are saying

I have not seen these people in two years... no phone calls, or anything. And I tried to keep things going with them. But one day, I decided that, much like with my marriage, I could not be the only one who tried to make it work. If I got no response, then to Hell with it.

So, true to form, when someone no longer wants me around, I walked, and did not look back. So where they are now, I have no idea... but I hope everyone is doing okay

I did that with a guy I was dating last year. It suddenly occured to me...I was running a marathon while he was sitting in a recliner, feet propped up, drinking a margarita.

When we have to work THAT hard...like you say...sometimes, you walk.

[Adina Zanolli]

The Text Message

I learned something this week, y’all. Apparently, it takes four people to ask my out on a date.

It started when I received a text from one of my gym buddies…who I had never given my number to. I RARELY give my number out.

He told me who he was and made some small talk.

The next day he starts in again. When he realizes I’m at my son’s football game, he offers come keep me company.

At the game, he tells me the story of the text message.

He wanted my number, so he got it from the only guy at the gym who had it. That was my friend David. David gives him a series of “instructions” that go with my number. God love him.

So then the guy, he has my number and is wondering what to text me. Ends up, three of the guys at my gym were standing around brain storming about what to put in the text.

The ice breaker text.

And these are buff guys y’all. One of them is a GNC sponsored athlete. I’m talking muscular people here, people!

And it just makes me laugh to picture it. A big pile of macho guys surrounding one little phone…thinking, contemplating, planning…to send me a text!!

You know, planning is good. But sometimes you just gotta do what you just gotta do!!!

Need to start a diet? Don’t think about it. Do it!

Need to get some cardio in? Don’t contemplate it. Do it!

Need to go lift today, but not sure if you have time? Stop planning. Go lift, and them come plan the rest of your day.

Through my years in maintenance, I have seen one thing derail more people than any other thing. And that is thinking TOO long and TOO hard.

All the times I failed, I was guilty of this.

I would make meticulous charts and graphs. The big, giant overview of my future physique. And we’re talking LITERAL charts here. Not figurative. Not imaginary! I made actual charts.

Then a month would come where I didn’t lose according to chart. Or I didn’t get the planned workout in…and it set me on a downward spiral.

Then I would rush, trying to do things in double time. But I was too far off my plan to get it back. And I would quit.

Here are the only plans you need:

Get a good clean diet you can follow, be that NutriSystem, Weight Watchers, or Palumbo’s. They all work.

Plan to do cardio at least four times a week if you need to lose.

Plan to lift. And yes, I lifted and lost at the same time.

So today, if it takes you more time to sit down and plan that it does to actually DO what’s on your plan…let’s get it in check, people. Let’s get it in check!


But...I really don't know why it takes that many people and that much planning to ask little ol' me out?!

That's just crazy y'all. That's just crazy.