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    Cool Does anyone else have this problem?

    I constantly meet guys who basically nag me about not hearing from me enough. It makes me frustrated and makes me call or text them even less. I work 2 jobs where I'm the boss and a lot of people rely on me, I workout everyday, and I live alone so I have to do all the shopping, cleaning, and cooking. I also have my hobbies that I'm into, showing dogs and any boating events. I never have time for a personal life. I barely have time to slow down. I love my busy life. I wouldn't have it any other way. I need to meet someone busy enough to not notice that I don't call them everyday.

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    lol good for you...do your thing and when ya ready too slow down you will and you will certainly make the time needed when you do meet that special one...and right now doesnt seem like the time from what your say and that is ok. Your young and you should do what ya like doing and have fun cause once you do settle down it will be a whole different story so make the most of your youth.

    Quote Originally Posted by Qubabe View Post
    I constantly meet guys who basically nag me about not hearing from me enough. It makes me frustrated and makes me call or text them even less. I work 2 jobs where I'm the boss and a lot of people rely on me, I workout everyday, and I live alone so I have to do all the shopping, cleaning, and cooking. I also have my hobbies that I'm into, showing dogs and any boating events. I never have time for a personal life. I barely have time to slow down. I love my busy life. I wouldn't have it any other way. I need to meet someone busy enough to not notice that I don't call them everyday.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Qubabe View Post
    I constantly meet guys who basically nag me about not hearing from me enough. It makes me frustrated and makes me call or text them even less. I work 2 jobs where I'm the boss and a lot of people rely on me, I workout everyday, and I live alone so I have to do all the shopping, cleaning, and cooking. I also have my hobbies that I'm into, showing dogs and any boating events. I never have time for a personal life. I barely have time to slow down. I love my busy life. I wouldn't have it any other way. I need to meet someone busy enough to not notice that I don't call them everyday.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lil mama View Post
    lol good for you...do your thing and when ya ready too slow down you will and you will certainly make the time needed when you do meet that special one...and right now doesnt seem like the time from what your say and that is ok. Your young and you should do what ya like doing and have fun cause once you do settle down it will be a whole different story so make the most of your youth.
    Thank you!! My Mom says if he's the right guy I will make the time for whomever it is. Sometimes I wonder if I push away or close off Mr Right before I even know it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BIG BOSS !! View Post
    How did you spend Valentine's Day?


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    I got up at 5am and ran 5 miles, took care of my dogs and horses, then taught 2 boot camp classes, I sat down with another client went over her new diet plan, took a nap, then worked at my training facility from 1-9pm I drove home, cooked my meals for today, and went to bed. Even when I was in relationships VDay wasn't important to me. I never thought that one day should be any different on how much you loved and cared about someone. I believe in the little things. If you brought me flowers on a day I wouldn't expect them that would mean so much more than on a day that all women get them.

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    I doubt it cause your Mr.Right would stop you dead in your tracks...no if's and's about it.

    Quote Originally Posted by Qubabe View Post
    Thank you!! My Mom says if he's the right guy I will make the time for whomever it is. Sometimes I wonder if I push away or close off Mr Right before I even know it.

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    u can easily miss the right guy with a lifestyle like that. a guy that wants attention from you means he cares and wants more from you. if you not willing to give it, then he will move on to a woman who will give him the attention he wants/deserves. when i met my girl, i knew i wanted a real relationship that would lead to marriage, if she was the right one. if she treated me like you mentioned, i wouldve moved on very quickly. luckily she didnt, we quickly fell in love and are looking forward to getting married and having kids. which we both agreed on about 3 months into it! from a guys perspective, your a hook up chick. not a chick to settle down with. good luck

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    p.s. if you dont get to know a guy, you wont know if he's "mr. right"

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kenny_1979 View Post
    u can easily miss the right guy with a lifestyle like that. a guy that wants attention from you means he cares and wants more from you. if you not willing to give it, then he will move on to a woman who will give him the attention he wants/deserves. when i met my girl, i knew i wanted a real relationship that would lead to marriage, if she was the right one. if she treated me like you mentioned, i wouldve moved on very quickly. luckily she didnt, we quickly fell in love and are looking forward to getting married and having kids. which we both agreed on about 3 months into it! from a guys perspective, your a hook up chick. not a chick to settle down with. good luck

    I don't give my attention to whiny low self esteem needy guys without lives. I have a life that I need to live. You are the first guy to tell me I'm a "hook up chic not a chic to settle down with" I always get "wow you would make a great wife". You have a right to your opinion though..of course it doesn't amount to much. My Mr Right is out there. He's that guy that has goals, is hardworking, and doesn't have time to worry that I'm not calling him 10 times a day. He certainly doesn't give a girl a hard time for not doing it. I mean, really, be a man not a bitch...lol

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    Guys are going to want a lot of attention from you. Ugly women..not so much but people change. Some person you didn't like before or a personality trait you didn't care for in the past can do a 360 turn on you. There's no doubt you will find someone you appreciate.

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    Don't worry about stuff like that Amanda. The right guy will come when you least expect it. I'm sorry your previous relationship did not work out. I remember you spent a lot on the guy..........

    I respect the work ethic you have. Keep up the good work.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ibarramedia View Post
    Don't worry about stuff like that Amanda. The right guy will come when you least expect it. I'm sorry your previous relationship did not work out. I remember you spent a lot on the guy..........

    I respect the work ethic you have. Keep up the good work.
    Thank you! Honestly I just wanted to see if any girls here who have lives like mine had the same problem in the dating scene. Maybe I'm the only one that is single and still looking for my Mr Right.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Qubabe View Post
    Thank you! Honestly I just wanted to see if any girls here who have lives like mine had the same problem in the dating scene. Maybe I'm the only one that is single and still looking for my Mr Right.
    I'm married, so can't really speak to this. What I CAN say is that my training schedule does cause problems. I am competitive to a fault, and racing both on the bike and doing some multi-sport this year. Naturally I am in the pool, in the weight room, on the indoor trainer, or running on the road....A LOT! My husband rides, but multisport is like watching grass grow for him. He finds that my training schedule is intrusive into our relationship, regardless of how early I get up to train, and how often I try to get my doubles in before I come home at night. There have been multiple discussions about this. I understand his point of view in that he wants to "see me more", but I also need to be true to myself and know that I am doing what I am doing because I love it. It's a constant balancing act.
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    Relationships are never easy, they all take sacrifice. Sometimes we are ready for them and sometimes we are not (regardless of the actual decisions we make to get into them ) Just compromise the best you can and hope for the best. If a relationship is that important to you, then the sacrifices will come.
    Try not to let hurdles hold you down because they will always be there.

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    i think that is my problem.. i constantly get on my ex gf for not getting back to me or keeping in touch as much, i have to resuperalize that she is busy and i shouldnt get upset.. but when i dont get back to her right away she gets upset so i dont think its fair to have that "double standard" ya know?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Qubabe View Post
    Thank you! Honestly I just wanted to see if any girls here who have lives like mine had the same problem in the dating scene. Maybe I'm the only one that is single and still looking for my Mr Right.
    Truthfully, while you have many good qualities about you, your chances of finding "Mr. Right" are greatly reduced with your current mind-set and even if you do, it is doubtful he will stick around if you continue to remain that unavailable. Now, I completely hear ya' when you say you don't want someone whining if you don't get a chance to call them everyday. As long as they know beforehand how busy you are and the amount of time you have to invest in the relationship, then they can make the decision of whether or not they want to stick around or not. Your much less likely to encounter this problem if they know up front you have time contraints which prevent daily communication.

    Now, if your other stuff going on IS more important than the person you think may be "Mr. Right" (which WILL show in the amount of time you dedicate to him) and your still not willing to open up more time, then your just not at a point in your life where you're ready to find Mr. Right. It's easy to say were ready, but our actions will show whether that is true or not. Truthfully, most men who really like you...those who want to have a serious relationship with you, will NOT be happy only talking to you 3X a week for 10 minutes at a time....and seeing ou only once every 1-2 weeks. A dating schedule of once every 1-2 weeks can work out fine in the beginning, but if he really likes you, that won't satisfy him for long. If at that point your still unwilling to invest additional time...or make time...he will likely move on after realzing you don't feel the same for him as he dos for you.

    Now, you may find a man who is very busy himself and who doesn't seem to have much time either, but those type of relationships, where both people are always busy running aorund...giving each other very little time...these relationships almost always die out because that's not the way a serious relationship thrives or grows. Additionally, men who are OK with that type of low-commitment, low-investment relationship usually aren't looking for a serious relationship, but simply someone to meet their basic needs (alleviation of lonliness, sex, etc).

    Men who are confident and secure in themselves will find a woman with ambition, drive, capability, and confidence to be attractive, while insecure men who lack confidence will find those character attributes undesirable....even if they don't admit it. These men may appear to appreciate those qualities in a woman on the outside, but inside it makes them feel worse about themselves and they will begin to resent or despise those things about her. Confident and secure men will feel just the opposite. Even then, confident and secure men will NOT want to see the woman they love or are falling in love with, on a limited basis. They will not want to feel like they are on the back-burner or unimportant. Even if a woman is completely capable of taking care of herself physically, every man still needs to think she still needs him. She doesn't have to need him for money, resources, or protection, but he will need to feel that she needs him on a deeper level...one which cannot be met by anything else but him. That is what draws males and females together in the first place....a basic need for companionship and intimacy with each other. If he feels you don't even need him for that and you show it in your actions, he will go find someone who does need him. He may wait around for a little while..maybe even longer than that if he really likes you, but eventually, if his feelings and needs are not reciprocated, he will leave.

    Either way, whatever you choose is fine if that is what you want to do, but just keep in mind that your choices will directly influence the probability of success in a relationship. You cannot remain disconnected and continue to believe your chances of finding Mr. Right are still just as good, or else you will just be decieving yourself. If the things going on in your life are a priority right now, that is completely fine....just be aware that it is your choice to prioritize those things and whatever we priortize, it is in those areas that we stand the greatest chance of success.

    Knowing of you what I know and seeing your pics, you should have no problem finding someone who displays the personality characteristic you find desirable, as well as someone who is attractive, intelligent, and makes decent money, but they aren't very likely to be escorted to your doorstep with a sign that reads "Willing to play 2nd fiddle to everything else in your life. Thank you".
    Last edited by Mike Arnold; July 30th, 2011 at 04:30 AM.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Qubabe View Post
    Thank you! Honestly I just wanted to see if any girls here who have lives like mine had the same problem in the dating scene. Maybe I'm the only one that is single and still looking for my Mr Right.
    Right (no pun intended).

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